The key to this step is hope. Of course there are times that we all feel hopeless and feel we can never recover, be fixed or be normal (whatever that means). The truth remains that whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you are right! This step involves opening our minds and our hearts to the possibility of living a life without the weight of the abuse lying heavy on our every move. We can never delete it’s existence, in fact, we may never be the person we could have been had we not been abused. However, we can heal, we can find peace and get to a strong place of resistance where the abuse no longer defines us.
We often need to dig deep for this step so we can have hope. If we cannot find hope then we need to dig deeper and for longer because hope of recovery is always there. We need to have faith in this program of recovery and give it our best shot at success. At times of real struggle we surround ourselves with people in our lives that will hold this hope for us when it is out of our reach. We as a group hold hope for each other in our recovery.
The next part of the step is about commitment- are we ready to fully commit to a program of recovery? It can be a painful journey, it can often feel a little worse before it begins to feel a whole lot better. It takes a willingness to change, it requires patience and honesty. With this step, we decide we will give the program our full commitment in the knowledge that there is a lighter, happier life on the horizon.
“Faith is taking the first step - even when we can’t see the whole staircase” Martin Luther King
Step 2: We have the courage to hold hope and commit to recovering from the hurt caused by the abuse