12 Steps to Recovery




1: We admitted we were powerless over the abuse and the abuse was not our fault.
2: We have the courage to hold hope and commit to recovering from the hurt caused by the abuse.
3: We made a fearless and honest review of our lives, our strengths and our weaknesses.
4: We made a list of the unhealthy coping mechanisms and destructive patterns that we have used to cope with the abuse.
5: We committed to tackling our weaknesses and developing healthier coping strategies.
6: We released the shackles of shame that kept our secrets and we told the untellable to someone.
7: We accepted professional help when needed for a safe place to discuss the details that may be too triggering for the group.
8: We considered any hurt we may have caused others while we ourselves were in pain, and we made direct amends where appropriate.
9: We explored the potential benefit of forgiveness in our lives including forgiving ourselves for our imperfections or failings
10: We examined and tackled other areas of self-care and self love including meditation, creating fun, our physical needs, our relationships, our friendships and our spirituality.
11: With compassion we stepped out of victimhood and into survivorhood by taking personal responsibility over our lives and future choices.
12:We honored our recovery by leaving the group when we no longer needed the support of weekly meetings. We carried the message of recovery to other survivors and we returned to the group, without judgement, when the need arose.


"Trauma is personal. It does not disappear if it is not validated. When it is ignored or invalidated the silent screams continue internally heard only by the one capture. When someone enters the pain and hears the screams healing can begin" Danielle Bernock